|Sophie (sqbr) wrote,|
@ 2009-04-20 10:38 am UTC
|Entry tags:||dw, policy|
While I'm always open to constructive criticism, these rules are ONLY up for discussion on this post, and must be followed as much as possible even while you're disagreeing with them. They are subject to change without notice.
- Do not deny other people's personal experiences.
- Society has inequalities of race, gender, sexuality, class, ability, age etc. This is a bad thing, and it is worthwhile trying to counteract it.
- Avoid hurtful behaviour. Most importantly racism/sexism/ablism etc but also wholesale attacks on religious groups etc, flaming, or personal attacks. Assume that whoever would be most hurt by your words is reading them.
- Post in good faith.
- Noone is immune from criticism, including me, but I get the final veto.
- Do not use the Tone Argument: the way people express themselves is up for criticism but doesn't make it ok to discount their message.
If I'm talking about a social bias you don't suffer from:
- Do not think you understand someone else's oppression (what it's like or how to fix it) better than they do no matter how many other oppressions you suffer under.
- No derailing, if you want to go on a tangent make your own post about it.
- Think before you comment, and only do so if you are adding something helpful to the conversation.
- You are sometimes going to be influenced by and complicit with the bias of the society you live in. If someone points this out, even if they seem rude, don't freak out. Take a step back, really listen to what they've said, and look at why it bothers you.
If you have something to say which breaks these rules
Consider not saying it :P
But if you must: Send it as a private message or email, or make a post on your own journal and leave a comment with an explanation and link.
If you make a comment which I think deserves a reply but I'm not comfortable making public, I'll leave/make it screened and send you a private message.
If you break these rules you will be warned (with more or less politeness depending on how deliberate I think it was) and if necessary banned. If someone else is doing something you think violates the rules or otherwise makes you feel unsafe you are welcome to express your problem with their behaviour to them, and if you feel I should do more about it let me know.
Notes for your benefit
Unfortunately I'm still a bit of a clueless idiot and may break the rules myself from time to time. I will try VERY hard to listen to any criticism on this score.
Also I have chronic fatigue syndrome which flares up at random and means I may be slow to respond to comments and deal with any issues.
Everything before 20th April 2009 is ported over from my lj so is not a safe space, watch yourself in the comments.
These terms of service apply and I work from these axioms and think we should listen to the people at the bottom of the pile. If you're still a bit hazy on what sort of space I'm after check out synecdochic's "comfort the disturbed, disturb the comfortable" is not just a bumper sticker for me.
These rules were adapted from the comment policies of lots of places, most significantly Hoyden About Town.