I don't think we are ever going to agree on this one, but I'd like to try to explain myself better.
I don't think you can apply morality to having a kink. I think you can always apply morality to the way you express that kink
This, to me, edges into censorship and policing of sexuality more than makes me comfortable.
Kinks, to me, are a part of sexuality where if you have them you're probably perving over someone in a way they wouldn't appreciate at all, and somebody is probably doing the same with regards to something about you.
You either acknowledge this and carry on, or you have to censor everything, like what you propose - putting them somewhere where they will insult people is immoral - because who will determine which kink is "okay" and which is not? You? A panel of filtering moderators?
The only way to do so is to have people who are targeted by the kink and therefore the only holders of such authority come up to request posters and tell them how their kink is not okay - which, let's be honest, pretty much renders the kink repository pointless - or to have people ask themselves if their kink is really worth posting since the people it might target might be able to see it, which is again a strategy of "your sexuality is bad and you should feel bad" which... no. I don't think you want to go down that road.
Best never to initiate kink exchanges in the first place - not that that isn't censorship of its kind considering the "such thoughts can be okay, but expressing them isn't" attitude - because you can't have them in a way that won't offend. The whipped cream example is useless because we're talking about kinks over certain (groups of) people, not toys, and that's not something one can replace. (Besides, kinks are kinks precisely because they are specific; if they were nebulous and adjustable they'd never come up as a quirk of sexuality.)
And, well, like I said, we're simply not going to meet on this one so I'll respectfully exit this debate.
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I don't think you can apply morality to having a kink.
I think you can always apply morality to the way you express that kink
This, to me, edges into censorship and policing of sexuality more than makes me comfortable.
Kinks, to me, are a part of sexuality where if you have them you're probably perving over someone in a way they wouldn't appreciate at all, and somebody is probably doing the same with regards to something about you.
You either acknowledge this and carry on, or you have to censor everything, like what you propose - putting them somewhere where they will insult people is immoral - because who will determine which kink is "okay" and which is not? You? A panel of filtering moderators?
The only way to do so is to have people who are targeted by the kink and therefore the only holders of such authority come up to request posters and tell them how their kink is not okay - which, let's be honest, pretty much renders the kink repository pointless - or to have people ask themselves if their kink is really worth posting since the people it might target might be able to see it, which is again a strategy of "your sexuality is bad and you should feel bad" which... no. I don't think you want to go down that road.
Best never to initiate kink exchanges in the first place - not that that isn't censorship of its kind considering the "such thoughts can be okay, but expressing them isn't" attitude - because you can't have them in a way that won't offend. The whipped cream example is useless because we're talking about kinks over certain (groups of) people, not toys, and that's not something one can replace. (Besides, kinks are kinks precisely because they are specific; if they were nebulous and adjustable they'd never come up as a quirk of sexuality.)
And, well, like I said, we're simply not going to meet on this one so I'll respectfully exit this debate.