Saturday, March 16th, 2013 03:41 am
This is what happens when Tumblr stops letting me reblog anything.

Is shaming ever useful? I think mild shame actually can be useful, especially in a group context: when the action being shamed is something easily preventable (EDIT: that hurts other people!) the person knew they'd get shamed for. Like making a sexist joke, say. But it shouldn't be "YOU ARE A BAD PERSON", just "Seriously, dude? Anyway...". And shaming someone for something they can't change quickly or at all (like being a smoker or even "telling a sexist joke that one time") is cruel and unproductive.

Neal Stephenson's Women Very narrow focus but makes some good points.

A Discussion With Evgeny Morozov, Silicon Valley’s Fiercest Critic Not sure I agree with all of this but it fits in with thoughts I've been having about a general tendency to ignore structural problems in favour of superficial fixes.

Even Kickstarter's Utopian Gift Economy Comes with Cheats and Fools Points out that the people who benefit from Kickstarters tend to be the same sort of privileged people who benefit from more traditional investment models.

getting offended when someone says ‘lol white people’ or ‘lol cis people’ There's been lots of discussion about this on my dash, and it occurred to me: If I was to say for example "I hate men" there's two possible meanings: 1) I genuinely hate all men (2) I have intense frustration with men as a class for reasons directly related to them being men. As a woman, I experience extreme sexism from men, which makes (2) a reasonable statement. Men have no frustration with women equivalent to experiencing sexism.

ANNOYING: In Therapy Forever? Enough Already So I don't actually have a major problem with the basic premise that many people in therapy would do better with a different approach aimed at getting them out of therapy. In fact I've stopped going to therapy much myself now that I've learned some useful techniques for managing my anxiety, all my recent sessions were mainly her going "Well, sounds like you're dealing with things really well!"

But like several psychology articles I've seen it has this tone of "We need to stop treating psychology patients like they have a serious mental problem. They're just sane people having a temporary episode, we should help them through that so they can go back to being normal. Ok, except for the CRAZY people but psychology isn't really about them." This one actually says many therapy patients don’t suffer severe disorders. Anxiety and depression are the top predicaments for which patients seek mental health treatment schizophrenia is at the bottom of the list. Because depression and anxiety can't ever be serious or chronic? I've had anxiety my whole life, I suppose there may have been a triggering incident 30+ years ago but that's not really the issue.
Friday, March 15th, 2013 09:53 pm (UTC)
Well, it's what The People want, yeah? So goes the defense...
Friday, March 15th, 2013 10:07 pm (UTC)
I think mild shame actually can be useful, especially in a group context: when the action being shamed is something easily preventable the person knew they'd get shamed for. Like making a sexist joke, say. But it shouldn't be "YOU ARE A BAD PERSON", just "Seriously, dude? Anyway..."

*nods* That's actually a context that I'd agree with, and that I wasn't thinking of when I posted that - I was thinking more along the lines of health-shaming (not eating or exercising enough) or shaming someone for their mental issues. I'm really familiar with both of those, and neither of them helped me. But I do agree that calling people out for activities that harm others is generally a good idea.
Saturday, March 16th, 2013 02:39 am (UTC)
I won't even click the link - just your description on stuff relating to therapy makes me want to smash and curl up into a ball. I just... no words. Just so much anger. There's such a huge difference between individuals going through an emotionally hard/tramatic time and needing skills and support to cope - and people who've been damaged somehow.

I just...

Yeah. Too much anger, spit hiss sizzle burn.
Saturday, March 16th, 2013 08:11 pm (UTC)
Re the therapy article, I see clinical anxiety and depression are classed as "just snap out of it" disorders. Nice.