The fantasy of being thin

[sqbr]

A quite good essay about the "When I'm thin everything will be better" thinking of a lot of dieters: The fantasy of being thin.

I must admit, I have pretty much literally thought "How dare they take my hope away?!" when reading fat acceptance blogs and their message that diets don't work. Because if that's true, then that sinks the only (fairly slim) chance I have of getting rid of my reflux, which is something I'm not ready to come to terms with. But if it's true then it's true, it's like debunking ineffective cancer cures etc. And as she says in the post, if you spend all your time pinning your hopes for bettering your life (in whatever way) on losing weight, and it never happens, then that's a waste of all the time and energy you could have spent pursuing those goals in other more effective ways.

I still think Weight watchers has been good for Cam and I even if we end up as fat at the end as we were at the start, since it's gotten us exercising and eating healthier. (I've seen one or two blogs which even argue against that, but them I don't take so seriously)

EDIT: the other thing I find annoying about fat acceptance blogs, which is totally not their fault, is all this talk about "eating whatever you want" when if I did that I would be seriously sick. Stupid allergies for all the foods I really like :(

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[rescviki.livejournal.com]

You have no idea how relevant or how much this post interests me Sweet Spice. As you know due to my battle with hypothyroidism I am about 15 kg slimmer than this time last year. It's not obvious to most but only to some. One thing they never tell you about getting slimmer are some of the negative side-effects. I can't fit into half my clothes and lack the moeny to go out and buy new ones. I also find I have greater choices but don't have the means available. And I am getting more attnetion from the opposite sex from situations such as walking down the street, which frankly, makes me uncomfortable.

On the plus side I am a little more confident but that is about the only good thing at the moment. It's not making y degree come faster and it isn't changing my job prospects.

[purrdence.livejournal.com]

Have considered having a Clothes Swap Party with your friends?

[alias_sqbr]

Mm, I used to envy women who got more attention from men, but it didn't take many strangers trying to chat me up for me to be glad I don't have a striking figure (my mum looks like an older, bustier version of me and gets all sorts of nasty hassle)

One of the funny things about me is that I'm always moderately happy with the way I look, but afraid of getting any fatter...and then I gain weight, and realise that I actually carry it off ok, and that the chunky forearms are offset by the increased cleavage etc :)