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The fantasy of being thin
A quite good essay about the "When I'm thin everything will be better" thinking of a lot of dieters: The fantasy of being thin.
I must admit, I have pretty much literally thought "How dare they take my hope away?!" when reading fat acceptance blogs and their message that diets don't work. Because if that's true, then that sinks the only (fairly slim) chance I have of getting rid of my reflux, which is something I'm not ready to come to terms with. But if it's true then it's true, it's like debunking ineffective cancer cures etc. And as she says in the post, if you spend all your time pinning your hopes for bettering your life (in whatever way) on losing weight, and it never happens, then that's a waste of all the time and energy you could have spent pursuing those goals in other more effective ways.
I still think Weight watchers has been good for Cam and I even if we end up as fat at the end as we were at the start, since it's gotten us exercising and eating healthier. (I've seen one or two blogs which even argue against that, but them I don't take so seriously)
EDIT: the other thing I find annoying about fat acceptance blogs, which is totally not their fault, is all this talk about "eating whatever you want" when if I did that I would be seriously sick. Stupid allergies for all the foods I really like :(
I must admit, I have pretty much literally thought "How dare they take my hope away?!" when reading fat acceptance blogs and their message that diets don't work. Because if that's true, then that sinks the only (fairly slim) chance I have of getting rid of my reflux, which is something I'm not ready to come to terms with. But if it's true then it's true, it's like debunking ineffective cancer cures etc. And as she says in the post, if you spend all your time pinning your hopes for bettering your life (in whatever way) on losing weight, and it never happens, then that's a waste of all the time and energy you could have spent pursuing those goals in other more effective ways.
I still think Weight watchers has been good for Cam and I even if we end up as fat at the end as we were at the start, since it's gotten us exercising and eating healthier. (I've seen one or two blogs which even argue against that, but them I don't take so seriously)
EDIT: the other thing I find annoying about fat acceptance blogs, which is totally not their fault, is all this talk about "eating whatever you want" when if I did that I would be seriously sick. Stupid allergies for all the foods I really like :(
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I finally figured out (thanks largely to Trinny and Susannah) that weight is not really my issue so much as my inconvenient proportions. Inconvenient vis a vis off-the-rack clothing, mostly. I often see women who are definitely much much larger than I am wear jeans successfully and it baffles me. I haven't found a pair of jeans to fit me in decades.
Like you I'm on a heavily restricted diet for health reasons, but I really dislike using the D word. I lost a chunk of weight quite quickly, which was nice, and good for my feet, but I appear to have plateauxed (sp?) now. If I stay here, so be it.
But sometimes, I'd like to be able to buy wearable shiny things :-(
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Same. Luckily I realised this in highschool when I was skinny (my hips were too wide for most pants despite being literally skin and bone) so I never went through the "If only I was skinnier I would fit into clothes better" phase most pear shaped women get.
It's actually gotten better as I've gotten fatter and my body has filled in around my oddly shaped skeleton.
But sometimes, I'd like to be able to buy wearable shiny things
Me too (I have a soft spot for long slinky numbers that only suit stick insects) But at least there's always accessories :)