Okay, so now I'm not at work and can respond properly!
At some point I switch off when a person is being rude to me and just stop caring what their message is. I'm surprised you don't! Once switched off, it's hard to know whether I'm actually doing the wrong thing or not...
I've made and will continue to make sexist and racist comments. Hopefully inadvertently and without much meaning behind them, but I don't mind people calling me on it. I guess it's the way people call me on it that can bug me; if I say something that's probably just thoughtless but without any real intent then I'd rather people just say, hey, that actually means this you know, and that's not good.
There was the time I called someone a rice boy for hotting up his car, completely thoughtlessly failing to realise what the term means! Someone told me, and I immediately went and apologised to the person. I guess the term existed in my head with a meaning of ('person that spends too much time hotting up cars') and I'd never realised a racial meaning to it.
I guess if I get the feeling that people aren't pointing out actually problems like that, and are instead sniping and looking for the worst meaning in things I say - kind of looking about for a racist or sexist meaning in any comment, then I'm most likely going to switch off. It starts feeling like a bit of a witch hunt.
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At some point I switch off when a person is being rude to me and just stop caring what their message is. I'm surprised you don't! Once switched off, it's hard to know whether I'm actually doing the wrong thing or not...
I've made and will continue to make sexist and racist comments. Hopefully inadvertently and without much meaning behind them, but I don't mind people calling me on it. I guess it's the way people call me on it that can bug me; if I say something that's probably just thoughtless but without any real intent then I'd rather people just say, hey, that actually means this you know, and that's not good.
There was the time I called someone a rice boy for hotting up his car, completely thoughtlessly failing to realise what the term means! Someone told me, and I immediately went and apologised to the person. I guess the term existed in my head with a meaning of ('person that spends too much time hotting up cars') and I'd never realised a racial meaning to it.
I guess if I get the feeling that people aren't pointing out actually problems like that, and are instead sniping and looking for the worst meaning in things I say - kind of looking about for a racist or sexist meaning in any comment, then I'm most likely going to switch off. It starts feeling like a bit of a witch hunt.
(God, is witch hunt a bad term?!)