Everyone's said very sensible and grown up things here. I guess I just don't care what sexuality someone is. Not in a nasty way, more in a I don't care if you're left handed, or a Scorpio or from South of the River way. So my assumptions are kind of a Err4 reading than 0-6, but if someone states that they have a same-sex partner, I am surprised very very briefly. Wait, I'm also the same amount of surprised when someone says they have a partner of the opposite sex, so I just wasted my time typing that.
I do object to people (often, but not always of the GLBT community) assuming I am sexist or homophobic or GLBT-ist. Not just me, there was a great moment when two mutual friends met, and one started ranting at the other about straight men being homophobic, laying into him for representing the world's evils. Yeah, that's right, he was gay. It was hilarious (for me.)
Oh, and 1b) and strangedave's comment ...as are being a lesbian and being butch YES. I don't know the frequency of this sort of thing, but it shits me to tears that I am so often assumed to be gay. I know of at least three guys who have gone under the misaprehention that I am a lesbian, for different reasons. I know that not all lesbians are butch, and the world seems to be getting better at that idea, but not every girl who doesn't wear makeup, dresses, skirts, make-out with strange boys is gay. I've actually invented a previous boyfriend backstory to drop into conversation when people are getting nosey. I had to sit my mum down one day and explain to her that I liked boys, it's that bad.
(Also, yes, I get the irony here. "Poor me, shoved into the wrong category, how hard it is to be straight." The only two times in my life I have ever been hit on, were by chicks. Not offended, just annoyed at the statistics :P)
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I do object to people (often, but not always of the GLBT community) assuming I am sexist or homophobic or GLBT-ist. Not just me, there was a great moment when two mutual friends met, and one started ranting at the other about straight men being homophobic, laying into him for representing the world's evils. Yeah, that's right, he was gay. It was hilarious (for me.)
Oh, and 1b) and
I know that not all lesbians are butch, and the world seems to be getting better at that idea, but not every girl who doesn't wear makeup, dresses, skirts, make-out with strange boys is gay. I've actually invented a previous boyfriend backstory to drop into conversation when people are getting nosey.
I had to sit my mum down one day and explain to her that I liked boys, it's that bad.
(Also, yes, I get the irony here. "Poor me, shoved into the wrong category, how hard it is to be straight." The only two times in my life I have ever been hit on, were by chicks. Not offended, just annoyed at the statistics :P)