one started ranting at the other about straight men being homophobic, laying into him for representing the world's evils
At random, or had he said something which (to the listener) came across as sexist/homophobic? It is an unfortunate fact that sometimes one is the straw that broke the camel's back, the whole situation not being very fair for the straw or the camel. (This is one reason I try to get my feminist/anti-racist etc rage out on my lj, lets me be calmer when facing this stuff in person)
People assume you're lesbian? You don't strike me as any more butch than I am! (Not that it would be a fair assumption even if you were)
Have you seen "But I'm a cheerleader"? It's a cute if slight movie about a girl who's sent to "un-gay-ification" camp and she's all "But I can't be a lesbian! I like pink! And cheerleading!" while another (straight) girl was sent there just for playing softball :) Then again, if you admit to watching it people may assume even more...
I don't think there's anything intrinsically wrong with complaining about the ways in which heterosexism make life difficult for straight people as long as we don't try to dominate the conversation or argue that we have it worse. Puts us all on the same side, same way as I like to see men complain about the way sexism (actual sexism, not imaginary "women run the world" sexism against men) hurts men.
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At random, or had he said something which (to the listener) came across as sexist/homophobic? It is an unfortunate fact that sometimes one is the straw that broke the camel's back, the whole situation not being very fair for the straw or the camel. (This is one reason I try to get my feminist/anti-racist etc rage out on my lj, lets me be calmer when facing this stuff in person)
People assume you're lesbian? You don't strike me as any more butch than I am! (Not that it would be a fair assumption even if you were)
Have you seen "But I'm a cheerleader"? It's a cute if slight movie about a girl who's sent to "un-gay-ification" camp and she's all "But I can't be a lesbian! I like pink! And cheerleading!" while another (straight) girl was sent there just for playing softball :) Then again, if you admit to watching it people may assume even more...
I don't think there's anything intrinsically wrong with complaining about the ways in which heterosexism make life difficult for straight people as long as we don't try to dominate the conversation or argue that we have it worse. Puts us all on the same side, same way as I like to see men complain about the way sexism (actual sexism, not imaginary "women run the world" sexism against men) hurts men.