Oh I'm not completely selfless. I won't volunteer to help anyone with absolutely anything. I don't drop everything for someone else's whim (though will drop significant amounts of things for helping with important stuff for friends - which is a much smaller group for me than acquaintances).

I just have gotten out of the habit of wanting much. I have great difficulty in thinking of things that I want. Either to have or to do. Which I suppose would be good if I were buddhist but apart from a vague interest during my early Monkey watching days I've not followed that up.

I am trying to work on giving myself permission to want things, and to consider things that I might want (in a non-consumerist, non-avaristic way). And have been having some help on that front, but still early days.