There is a marked difference between being a) polite and compassionate; and b) cowardly.
I too used to hide behind the concept of "niceness" to justify conflict-avoidance. Not that I don't still hide from conflict, but I don't dress it up as a virtue anymore.
If I call them on it but am nice to them later? Well, I may still be being complicit (I'm still thinking about that one)
I think you can disagree with someone and still be friends, or at least friendly, as long you don't excuse them simply because you're friends.
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a) polite and compassionate; and
b) cowardly.
I too used to hide behind the concept of "niceness" to justify conflict-avoidance. Not that I don't still hide from conflict, but I don't dress it up as a virtue anymore.
If I call them on it but am nice to them later? Well, I may still be being complicit (I'm still thinking about that one)
I think you can disagree with someone and still be friends, or at least friendly, as long you don't excuse them simply because you're friends.