Ah crap, sorry, I misunderstood your point. I agree, nothing you've said here has been too bad (well, apart from being a bit off topic here and there) I'm not sure I can quite articulate what it is I thought you saying, I have been in the worst mood recently, it's making me view everything with a very jaundiced eye. Thankyou for replying so politely.

That said, while my comments are definitely much more slapdash and unstructured than my posts, I do hold myself to a higher standard of not-being-offensive in conversations like this than I do on my lj eg if I was a white person coming into a conversation about race on the journal of a POC.