I've been thinking about this all day, so I reckon that makes it a great post :)
OK, current thoughts:
One of the main principles of the 'system' of social justice you seem to follow is that in any particular cause the 'owners' of that cause are the disadvantaged people in question, and hence they, and they alone, get to make the rules.
Now, you, as a chronically ill/disabled person, have limitations on your life, and you either need other people to make allowances for those limitations or you are suffering from their discrimination. In this case, the limitations are that you can't always reply to comments, or not reply swiftly or as comprehensively as you would wish. And that is not something you are making up as an excuse, it is a very real and genuine fact of your life. It is also an unpredictable one - especially at your stage of the illness you have no actual means of knowing in advance if you will or will not have the spoons tomorrow to deal with any possible consequences of your actions.
So, we put these two facts together and what do we get?
When you are posting about an issue where you happen to have privilege, you are entering the space of the unprivileged people in question. This is true whether you are posting on a community, someone else's journal, or even on your own - it is still 'their' cause, so they make the rules and all you need to do is find out what those rules are. If those rules accommodate your needs as a disabled person, well and good and smiles and drinks all round. If they do not then all you can do is leave their space. Yelling and screaming that they are a bunch of ableist bastards if you so chose, but the fact remains - their house: their rules.
What you should not do is try to stay and accommodate yourself to rules that you are physically incapable of meeting, or stay and try to pretend that you are accommodating yourself when you in fact can't. Because that really is causing problems both for yourself, by risking your health and sense of self worth, and for them, by being yet another idiot who won't obey their rules in their own space.
But first step - find out what the rules actually are. And this means the rules as they will apply to you, not the rules that Synecdochic is writing for her own personal use. If you don't want to come straight out and ask (and it can be horrible asking for help or admitting weakness, plus as I understand it some groups have rules about not asking questions) then find out in a sneaky roundabout fashion - but do take the time to find out.
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OK, current thoughts:
One of the main principles of the 'system' of social justice you seem to follow is that in any particular cause the 'owners' of that cause are the disadvantaged people in question, and hence they, and they alone, get to make the rules.
Now, you, as a chronically ill/disabled person, have limitations on your life, and you either need other people to make allowances for those limitations or you are suffering from their discrimination. In this case, the limitations are that you can't always reply to comments, or not reply swiftly or as comprehensively as you would wish. And that is not something you are making up as an excuse, it is a very real and genuine fact of your life. It is also an unpredictable one - especially at your stage of the illness you have no actual means of knowing in advance if you will or will not have the spoons tomorrow to deal with any possible consequences of your actions.
So, we put these two facts together and what do we get?
When you are posting about an issue where you happen to have privilege, you are entering the space of the unprivileged people in question. This is true whether you are posting on a community, someone else's journal, or even on your own - it is still 'their' cause, so they make the rules and all you need to do is find out what those rules are. If those rules accommodate your needs as a disabled person, well and good and smiles and drinks all round. If they do not then all you can do is leave their space. Yelling and screaming that they are a bunch of ableist bastards if you so chose, but the fact remains - their house: their rules.
What you should not do is try to stay and accommodate yourself to rules that you are physically incapable of meeting, or stay and try to pretend that you are accommodating yourself when you in fact can't. Because that really is causing problems both for yourself, by risking your health and sense of self worth, and for them, by being yet another idiot who won't obey their rules in their own space.
But first step - find out what the rules actually are. And this means the rules as they will apply to you, not the rules that Synecdochic is writing for her own personal use. If you don't want to come straight out and ask (and it can be horrible asking for help or admitting weakness, plus as I understand it some groups have rules about not asking questions) then find out in a sneaky roundabout fashion - but do take the time to find out.