(see disclaimer on previous comment regarding tiredness)

I think your point came across clearly. A summary of what I am hearing would be: In theory you would accept discriminatory behaviour from a group if you thought their cause was good enough, but in reality there is nearly always an alternative so you don't have to.

I think this may be one of the fundamental differences between us as people, and the reason why you can become an ally and why I can't - I would not and am not willing to make compromises like that. If I don't like the rules a group are setting I will try to get them to change the rules or I will walk away. Hmm, what an interesting discovery.