The problem with screening commnts

[sqbr]

Is that I sometimes forget to unscreen them :) This is solved automatically when I reply, but not all comments require a reply (eg if people are having a conversation between themselves)

I mean sometimes I WANT a screened comment to stay invisible until I address it, but often I don't.

So, I'm trying to get into the habit of unscreening comments the moment I get them unless I have a particular reason not to. (And so far they've all been unscreened eventually)

But if a comment of yours on a screened post seems stuck in the queue and it was something really innocuous or it's been several days, let me know and I'll either unscreen it or let you know that I'm working on it.

Comments

[trouble]

Hey, are you doing okay? I saw your comment at Hathor and wanted to touch base. *hug*

[sqbr]

Yes, thanks. I was grumpy this morning but had a very nice day with my family :) I'm not sure if I was *too* grumpy over there, what do you think? I'm never sure when doing that sort of thing but didn't want to let it slide.

[trouble]

I''m honestly not sure one way or the other. For the sake of my mental health right now, I'm trying to avoid any discussion about what's going on in fandom, although I'm very happy to note that there are people who are framing a lot of this as about dis/ablism, which was how I saw a lot of it when it first hit.

But, because I'm trying to avoid it, I'm not thinking I'm the best person to comment on whether or not your response was too harsh or not harsh enough or just the right hit of harsh. I'm hoping someone gets back to you, either there on the post or via email, and a discussion can happen. I know Jenn (who hosts the site) is interested in talking more about disability-related issues, but the site is focused on women in the media, and there are, as you know, few representations of women in the media who have a disability.

... And then I want to go on about how women in the media with disabilities are presented in one of two ways: as being blind (and thus "seers" or having some other form of "mysticism" associated with them because of it ) or as having some form of mental illness that is usually tied in some way to their inability to handle power. It often manifests in sexual ways, and they're often shown as pathetic. I don't think we have films about women with mental illness the way there is "A Beautiful Mind" or even (to some) Jack Sparrow in Pirates of the Caribbean.

....
I apparently want to talk about this, but haven't quite got the tools yet. I should probably start a conversation about it mine, and get more feedback from our community, which is filled with awesome women who have lots of thoughts.

[sqbr]

I totally understand not wanting to think about it. And in case you didn't see, our conversation ended fairly happily :)

You know I had never thought specifically about representations of women with disability in media. Huh. *ponders* If you do eventually post about it I will read with interest!