explores sociological ramifications of a technological change and is totally focussed on women, so I'm sure it's not mindblowing at all.

Exactly! Bah.

I kept thinking of mindblowing sf I'd read where the mindblowingness isn't the science itself but the stuff that happens around it. And really, the number of stories whose scientific ideas genuinely blew my mind is pretty tiny (and Ted Chiang's was one of the them)