I think we're agreeing violently. My point about "Hard SF", because I've followed the history of it a bit, is that the definition of exactly what is "Hard SF" has basically become more restrictive every time a woman wrote something that would fit the previous definition. For example, biology is now well outside the remit of "Hard SF", but it wasn't in the 1950s. Similarly, the psychology ("psychohistory") of Asimov's Foundation series was seen as pretty "Hard" in its day but not now girls are writing stuff with much more rigorous psychological underpinnings.