hmmm. so, as allies of PoC, we should stand back and let them fight their own battles, rather than actively helping them?

I'm at the same stage as you, well meaning and trying to become well informed.

Something I've realised from these discussions is that it isn't either fight the battles of PoC or stand back and let them fight their own battles alone, but that we - as white allies - shouldn't be telling PoC how to fight those battles.

Sometimes it's best to just listen, then ask what I can do to help.