I was building a list of recs, but then I realized I have no idea what constitutes as a "representation of queerness."

-I can think of three fantasy manga where there is extreme subtext between the male characters (sometimes ending in outright text)... but does this fall into that fanservice/bromance category?

-How much subtext does it have to be? One of my favorite manga has yakuza and guns and weird-as-hell drugs, and the two main characters are implied to be deeply in love (or something, it's kind of messed up) with each other, but nobody has come out and said it, and there's been no kissing or anything (unless that's happened in the past year, haven't been keeping up)

- How much realism is required? I can think of a couple non-offensive* yaoi manga (slow romances, no rape**) but they don't necessarily make an issue out of being gay. And, of course, these will always focus on the romance aspect of things.

I honestly want to know, because I don't want to rec something and then be told later that it's actually quite offensive.

*(to me, a straight woman)
**(god I hate that the default in yaoi is "rape")