Ah, now I understand where you're coming from - thanks for clarifying.

I think your definition is maybe a tad restrictive because I don't fit all of it - the society I live in doesn't think of me as lesser/broken/despicable, it's just the odd phobic individual who thinks that, so to the extent that I am 'othered' it is only as a result of being a minority and having to be cautious of the phobic. But I like your 'them' and 'us' definition, that works well for me.