I did my best to frame the comments on the gay/slash debate with "to take my own issues"; I was attempting to illustrate a recent case of intersectionality, not to criticize you for your (hypothetical) position in that debate, which I don't know.
"The fifty hypothetical people berating her would be doing so because they thought she was being racist, and maybe they'd be right"
You're only addressing half the case. The other half is equally important. Suppose that Adelheid says something she thinks is intelligent and interesting, it is linked to from metaquotes with a dismissive note (say Warning:Privilege), and the hypothetical fifty strangers show up to yell *even though the post was in fact intelligent and interesting.*
That's a genuine loss. False positives are as bad as false negatives.
"I knew any post on this subject was going to get lots of defensive people taking what I said personally"
Your original post, before you edited it, was a general statement not about your own personal behavior but about right behavior in the context of the ongoing social-justice debate. When you make a general statement and people say "I don't think this is actually correct", they aren't necessarily being defensive -- they are addressing a categorical imperative.
Finally, as to this: " So while your actions are justified, they are also part of the dynamic silencing me. "
I don't see how I can be silencing you when you specifically asked for feedback. If you meant "I want to hear what other people think of these ideas", then you aren't being silenced if people disagree, surely?
I'm sorry you're out of spoons; I'll happily stop commenting if it distresses you. Sometimes the best thing one can do for one's own sanity is to snail-shell.
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"The fifty hypothetical people berating her would be doing so because they thought she was being racist, and maybe they'd be right"
You're only addressing half the case. The other half is equally important. Suppose that Adelheid says something she thinks is intelligent and interesting, it is linked to from metaquotes with a dismissive note (say Warning:Privilege), and the hypothetical fifty strangers show up to yell *even though the post was in fact intelligent and interesting.*
That's a genuine loss. False positives are as bad as false negatives.
"I knew any post on this subject was going to get lots of defensive people taking what I said personally"
Your original post, before you edited it, was a general statement not about your own personal behavior but about right behavior in the context of the ongoing social-justice debate. When you make a general statement and people say "I don't think this is actually correct", they aren't necessarily being defensive -- they are addressing a categorical imperative.
Finally, as to this: " So while your actions are justified, they are also part of the dynamic silencing me. "
I don't see how I can be silencing you when you specifically asked for feedback. If you meant "I want to hear what other people think of these ideas", then you aren't being silenced if people disagree, surely?
I'm sorry you're out of spoons; I'll happily stop commenting if it distresses you. Sometimes the best thing one can do for one's own sanity is to snail-shell.