I think Miles Vorkosigan from Lois McMaster Bujold deserves an honorable mention. I found that many books that I enjoyed when I was completely able-bodied are no longer fun now that I am (mildly) disabled, precisely because they come up with all sorts of assumptions. "Disability superpower" is the one that makes me really mad these days, perhaps because I didn't get any ;-) But I found that Miles still appeals. He does have a "super charisma" to compensate for his limitations, but for me he comes with enough internal struggle, mistakes and fragility that makes him realistic, at least in my personal experience.
Miles Vorkosigan / Lois McMaster Bujold