I was referring to spoons in the way you think - everything else a person needs or wants to do with the energy they currently have and choosing what to spend it on.

But bringing it up again, I'm reminded of Forks. Which exemplifies the conclusion you're coming to about limits.

I can understand thinking dialogue is a very good thing especially when it results in learning moments. And that you think continued dialogue can only help more. But the dialogue isn't new. There are books, studies, essays, taped lectures etc that people can search out if they want to know more - or share if they want to share more. And not just about race, but other issues as well. The resources are out there.

Awareness doesn't have to be spoonfed in order for it to stick. And it will always be frustrating if one ends up thinking 'if only they knew more! they just don't have the knowledge!' than to admit many don't want the knowledge and it wouldn't matter how much an individual put themselves out on the front line to 'host' said conversations.

So again, limits; making sure one is not losing one's sense of self by doing more, as if one's own singular effort will be the tipping point, if only one gave more (was more willing to give up that last spoon to some 'greater cause').