So while I still like reading fic about women being awesome together, I need to tread kind of carefully to avoid that. To avoid fic eroticising the concept of 'female' in a way that directly defines me out of that category. Because while I am kind-of sort-of genderqueer, not just plain cisfemale, that is my decision to make, not theirs.

Ohhhh yes, that's my experience too, and I'm rather glad I'm not the only one. I love f/f slash but actually read much more m/m slash, because that avoids that all-too-frequent awful awful feeling of being somehow "not enough of a woman".