I don't really feel like part of the femslash fandom (yet) for various reasons, but this line really resonated with me:

Femslash fandom is so queer that queerness is taken for granted.

That's one thing I've really experienced in the parts of fandom I usually hang out in, too, and it is part of the reason I love fandom so much. It's just such a relief to be in a space where the default *isn't* cis straight heteronormative, where I can just live all my odd little identities without having to explain them every single time they come up.