The medium, for me, is really not conducive to it. Usually I want discussion, not just 'here's where I disagree with you and I'm showing everyone that I'm following that I disagree with you.' So I'll generally do one of two things which is one: make a post here on Dreamwidth. I recently did just that regarding the topic of kink and noncon/dubcon, and the attacks I draw for writing noncon/dubcon and my opinion on just that as a systemic abuse victim/survivor. The other thing I might do is write a completely separate post on the subject.
However, the latter has always been seen as a very passive aggressive thing to do on LJ and DW, so I tend to avoid doing this. The whole 'well this made me think of stuff that is mostly disagreeing with you and now I'm going to write about it without even cluing you in' was always - at least on LJ - very frowned upon. There was more of a 'deal with that shit in comments, unless you're asked not to talk about that stuff on my journal, in which case deal with it in your own journal and tag the hell out of it in the cut.'
The reason I like taking difficult subjects away from Tumblr, and onto Dreamwidth is that the mutuals I have on Tumblr I don't really know at all. At least here, there is more of a vetting system. They've read more of my personal posts; I've generally read more of their personal posts. I haven't learned about their personality primarily through reblogs; and ironically, people who only link post on DW, do NOT earn my trust, even if I like the links. They haven't earned the right to my personal opinions on a matter or my reflections on my life - so why would I give people on Tumblr the same, just because the communication on Tumblr is so generally against complex communication? So I don't.
That's a pretty hard line. But then I started using Tumblr specifically as a coping mechanism (which is why 'myawesomespace' is just that, and tends to avoid posts that make me depressed or angry or anxious - it was a coping mechanism Tumblr to make me feel better, with the idea that I could go to a random page and find things that I found funny or uplifting or silly).
Tonally though, I respond to things differently here. Like, overall. Dreamwidth just seems to encourage gentler responses overall, even when people are strongly disagreeing with each other. You can have comment policies on your profile or stickied at the top of your page. You can warn people in advance - in some detail - what they're likely to see and not see in your journal. The downside, of course, is that sometimes you won't get very many differing opinions because of similarities.
For me, I've never learned much from like...arguing or discussing on Tumblr. I know that's different for others, and I've seen some really enlightened discussion on your page - so I know it happens. I've learned a lot from different articles and images and comics and quotes. I've learned a lot from Dreamwidth and novels. I find intelligent discourse that doesn't immediately make me feel triggered rare over at Tumblr. I think because people are used to communicating in soundbytes, so they try to get across 'you are wrong' as quickly as possible. Here, my response - long and rambling as it is - clogs up Tumblr pages. I think everyone is aware of 'shortening' even in reblogs, even if a response is longer than a reply/ask.
Oh! My third method of discoursing with someone on Tumblr? Fanmail. Like 'I saw your post on X and I had some thoughts about it and here they are...' - Public discussions like the kind that happen on Tumblr generally make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn't stand up in a room of 60 mostly-strangers and make a private conversation of discussion with someone else very very public (I just wouldn't, I can barely speak in a room of 60 people), and I struggle to do it on Tumblr too, unless it's a hot-button issue for me. Dreamwidth is easier, because it's a more sheltered environment. Mostly. Even this post of yours - which is public - just has a different 'feel' to reading it over at Tumblr. For me, the sites feel very different, and therefore create different tonal responses, which make in depth discussion difficult and prohibitive in some cases. I think Facebook and Twitter do the same.
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However, the latter has always been seen as a very passive aggressive thing to do on LJ and DW, so I tend to avoid doing this. The whole 'well this made me think of stuff that is mostly disagreeing with you and now I'm going to write about it without even cluing you in' was always - at least on LJ - very frowned upon. There was more of a 'deal with that shit in comments, unless you're asked not to talk about that stuff on my journal, in which case deal with it in your own journal and tag the hell out of it in the cut.'
The reason I like taking difficult subjects away from Tumblr, and onto Dreamwidth is that the mutuals I have on Tumblr I don't really know at all. At least here, there is more of a vetting system. They've read more of my personal posts; I've generally read more of their personal posts. I haven't learned about their personality primarily through reblogs; and ironically, people who only link post on DW, do NOT earn my trust, even if I like the links. They haven't earned the right to my personal opinions on a matter or my reflections on my life - so why would I give people on Tumblr the same, just because the communication on Tumblr is so generally against complex communication? So I don't.
That's a pretty hard line. But then I started using Tumblr specifically as a coping mechanism (which is why 'myawesomespace' is just that, and tends to avoid posts that make me depressed or angry or anxious - it was a coping mechanism Tumblr to make me feel better, with the idea that I could go to a random page and find things that I found funny or uplifting or silly).
But my author Tumblr - the one where people do ask me complex questions about things (like today I got 'what is the difference between territoriality and jealousy' as an example) - I just have a general policy to be very very careful about discussions where I mostly just want to disagree with other people. I self-censor more heavily there, because it's public and it's linked to my author name. But I have written very strongly worded posts about my stance as an author who writes noncon/dubcon alongside realistic trauma recovery that isn't intended as kink.
Tonally though, I respond to things differently here. Like, overall. Dreamwidth just seems to encourage gentler responses overall, even when people are strongly disagreeing with each other. You can have comment policies on your profile or stickied at the top of your page. You can warn people in advance - in some detail - what they're likely to see and not see in your journal. The downside, of course, is that sometimes you won't get very many differing opinions because of similarities.
For me, I've never learned much from like...arguing or discussing on Tumblr. I know that's different for others, and I've seen some really enlightened discussion on your page - so I know it happens. I've learned a lot from different articles and images and comics and quotes. I've learned a lot from Dreamwidth and novels. I find intelligent discourse that doesn't immediately make me feel triggered rare over at Tumblr. I think because people are used to communicating in soundbytes, so they try to get across 'you are wrong' as quickly as possible. Here, my response - long and rambling as it is - clogs up Tumblr pages. I think everyone is aware of 'shortening' even in reblogs, even if a response is longer than a reply/ask.
Oh! My third method of discoursing with someone on Tumblr? Fanmail. Like 'I saw your post on X and I had some thoughts about it and here they are...' - Public discussions like the kind that happen on Tumblr generally make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn't stand up in a room of 60 mostly-strangers and make a private conversation of discussion with someone else very very public (I just wouldn't, I can barely speak in a room of 60 people), and I struggle to do it on Tumblr too, unless it's a hot-button issue for me. Dreamwidth is easier, because it's a more sheltered environment. Mostly. Even this post of yours - which is public - just has a different 'feel' to reading it over at Tumblr. For me, the sites feel very different, and therefore create different tonal responses, which make in depth discussion difficult and prohibitive in some cases. I think Facebook and Twitter do the same.