I'm an aromantic heterosexual and I cosign this--finding the split attraction model was so helpful in figuring out how I felt about people that I'm really not inclined to give it up to make people who want to shame people like me happy. I'm not even trying to colonize queer spaces (and stuff like this is one of several reasons I'm not comfortable IDing as queer, because behavior and identity do not always line up neatly.)

Like, I don't necessarily think that aromantic/asexual heteros should fit in queer spaces, but there are some things that definitely fall under an umbrella of how society treats non-normative sexual and romantic orientations. But "stop identifying in a way that makes sense to you, start identifying in a way that I'm comfortable with" is never the answer.