Yeah, I'm inclined to classify my uncle as awful and toxic but not abusive
just because, like...he's rarely deliberately hurtful he just so incredibly
self absorbed that he constantly hurts the people around him without
noticing or caring. He lives in a fantasy where he's the most talented and
wonderful person in the world who everyone just naturally loves and want to
do nice things for, and anything that interferes with that fantasy (people,
facts, past promises, etc) is shouted down or ignored. He compliments my
mother all the time, but it's always like "You're a genius like me! Because
you're my sister!" or "You're so generous, I love you, can I have $50". I
get the feeling he might have been more unpleasantly competitive back when
they were kids, though.
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Yeah, I'm inclined to classify my uncle as awful and toxic but not abusive just because, like...he's rarely deliberately hurtful he just so incredibly self absorbed that he constantly hurts the people around him without noticing or caring. He lives in a fantasy where he's the most talented and wonderful person in the world who everyone just naturally loves and want to do nice things for, and anything that interferes with that fantasy (people, facts, past promises, etc) is shouted down or ignored. He compliments my mother all the time, but it's always like "You're a genius like me! Because you're my sister!" or "You're so generous, I love you, can I have $50". I get the feeling he might have been more unpleasantly competitive back when they were kids, though.