I still wonder if there's a bent towards securing a safe place by proving one's belonging in a community by defining one's non-privileges alongside one's privileges. Maybe it's because there's already so little cross-group solidarity, that the battle lines happen internally for some, even if they're not being spoken. I know for myself, I sometimes feel the pull to do it, and have to consciously choose to resist it, which means I haven't yet internalised 'you don't have to do this' yet.

Saaaame. It's a scary world, and hard not to be defensive.

I'm glad I helped you see things from a useful new point of view!