I've been thinking for some time about writing a post about the various techniques I've used to get around the difficulty of communicating with people on the internet when you're tactless.
But I've realised that before I can post that I need to lay out the necessary basic principles which I think underlie successful communication on the internet so that I can refer back to them.
I'm probably going to go back and add to this post as I go, but for the moment here are the principles that have come up, with links to clarifying posts where I felt they were necessary.
A lot of these are going to seem really self evident, but perhaps due to my background in pure mathematics I like having the principles I'm working from made explicit.
Basic Principles:
Sub-principles
I am, as always, totally up for people pointing out any flaws or inconsistencies or expressing a different opinion.
But I've realised that before I can post that I need to lay out the necessary basic principles which I think underlie successful communication on the internet so that I can refer back to them.
I'm probably going to go back and add to this post as I go, but for the moment here are the principles that have come up, with links to clarifying posts where I felt they were necessary.
A lot of these are going to seem really self evident, but perhaps due to my background in pure mathematics I like having the principles I'm working from made explicit.
Basic Principles:
- Other people's feeling are as important as your own
- It is possible for rational, intelligent, well-informed people to have different opinions
- Freedom of speech does not actually mean saying whatever you like whenever you like
- Pay attention to what is being said, by you and others, and be aware of the different ways it could be interpreted
Sub-principles
- Other people's feelings are important
- The fact that you think someone is wrong doesn't mean it's ok to treat them like crap
- Stay on topic
- Be careful what you leave unsaid
- Actually read what people have said
I am, as always, totally up for people pointing out any flaws or inconsistencies or expressing a different opinion.
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I like this one. It annoys when other people assume whatever side of a debate is dumb. Particularly fun when arguing about environmentalism or meateating or politics in my opinion. :P
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Whenever I complain about this sort of thing, Cam says "Your problem is that you keep forgetting that people suck".