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Good Geek/Guy Gadvice
I keep seeing posts like this and then losing them again, so a (currently pretty sparse) compilation of all the useful-looking (to me) social-advice-for-geeks I've seen and can think of right now. I'll add more stuff if I think of it/am linked it.
Not all of these are explicitely "advice", but I think the important factors are (a) Talking about issues of social interaction and (b)largely being aimed at the people they're complaining about, ie not a woman ranting to her female friends about a particular male behaviour.
Also, note that I don't neccesarily agree with everything in all of these, but they are least thought provoking.
Dealing with geek social dynamics
Relationship/flirting advice
So far all aimed at (but not neccesarily by) straight guys
Totally not geeky, I just like it
Not all of these are explicitely "advice", but I think the important factors are (a) Talking about issues of social interaction and (b)largely being aimed at the people they're complaining about, ie not a woman ranting to her female friends about a particular male behaviour.
Also, note that I don't neccesarily agree with everything in all of these, but they are least thought provoking.
Dealing with geek social dynamics
- Five geek social fallacies
- RETAIL: THE WRATH OF CAT PISS MAN An extended version of Geek Fallacy 1
- The Short Bus of Social Interactivity needs "..also, don't use sexist/ablist etc language", but never mind, otherwise pretty good.
Relationship/flirting advice
So far all aimed at (but not neccesarily by) straight guys
- Jason's Guide to Con Flirting Without Being THAT GUY
- Auntie Penknife's Guide to Flirting for Men
- A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females
- I remember seeing an awesome essay on the flaws inherent in the "Nice Guy" theory, but I can't find it again. Brief googling got me this and this which capture some of it. EDIT: also The Internet Nice Guy Rears His Ugly Head Once More
- EDIT AGAIN: 8 months later and here it is: No more Mr Nice Guy. Via the comments on the feed for this xkcd strip about the same thing.
Totally not geeky, I just like it