Something I have seen over and over lots of places is the fact that a lot of people (especially certain men(*)) are incapable of telling the difference between "Interested in sex" and "Interested in sex with that particular person".
Since my preferences happen to be so conventional and I'm not naturally flirtatious etc I tend to miss out on the sorts of things you're talking about, but I've seen them being used towards others and can imagine it's really hurtful. Closest I've come was in second year when people found out I had a lower-than-expected purity score and almost reacted as if I had been living a lie, like having a somewhat varied sex life was incompatible with being a shy, neurotic, sensible geek girl. God knows how people would have reacted if I was bisexual or something.
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Since my preferences happen to be so conventional and I'm not naturally flirtatious etc I tend to miss out on the sorts of things you're talking about, but I've seen them being used towards others and can imagine it's really hurtful. Closest I've come was in second year when people found out I had a lower-than-expected purity score and almost reacted as if I had been living a lie, like having a somewhat varied sex life was incompatible with being a shy, neurotic, sensible geek girl. God knows how people would have reacted if I was bisexual or something.
(*)But not your good self :)