Lacking the motivation or desire to change one's state of being even given a clear pathway is a somewhat separate issue from complaining about it. Is it only the combination of the two that bothers you, or is it either separately as well?

We've touched on this subject before, but it's reasonably clear from your writing that you affirm the idea of targeting improvements in one's personal happiness ("my happiness project" etc. -- which it has been interesting to watch evolve over time). But if life isn't about pursuing happiness then merely being unhappy is not a sufficient reason to act.

There's a lot more I'd like to say about life analysis: for example about the granularity at which one observes the broad factors affecting life. But it's a bit late for me to do more than ramble, so I'll leave that for now.

"I struggle to feel empathy when people have the ability and information to address their complaints, but choose not to."

This view fits very neatly into that old (and dodgy) chestnut about men wanting to solve women's problems and women wanting to get a bit of sympathy: except you're not a man. But it makes me wonder about the type of status relationship you have with the aforementioned disdained non-problem-solvers.