Also, while it's hard for me to remember what it was like before I got cfs, and I've actually never been 100% healthy, I think I do in general have a "live and let live" approach to other people's health. I think part of it is that most people, even with their unhealthy lifestyles, feel better than I do, so I think "Well, if I felt that good, I'd probably eat lots of chocolate and icecream too" (and in fact, I did)

I still seriously miss being able to eat whatever I wanted and do whatever I wanted. I'm not going to begrudge those who have the option to do that and take it.

I don't even really mind people smoking, it's their lungs. Though if any of my close friends or family started I'd probably bug them slightly every now and then.

All that said, maybe it's just been too long since I met anyone really whiny, and I've forgotten what they're like.

EDIT: Wait, I've realised what it is. The question was framed wrong (for me).

I don't see people as lazy if they're miserable and won't fix it even thought they could. I see them as self destructive. And obviously watching someone be self destructive is unpleasant, but all you can do is offer them advice and hope they make the right choice for themselves.

EDIT 2: Oh! And Drama Queens. I've encountered some of them. With health issues I tend to take people at their word but in general some people do seem to blow negative life experiences into a shakespearean tragedy with themselves in the lead. So, they're annoying.

But I see "Not looking after yourself" and "complaining too much" as two orthogonal measures, and have more sympathy for people who complain all the time whose lives actually suck (even if they could fix it) than for ones whose don't.

(Can you tell I hadn't really thought about this before and am figuring out what I think as I go? :))