How a Marriage Survives When One Partner Gets Sick

[sqbr]

I've been thinking about the issues that I and Cam have gone through since I got really sick, but How a Marriage Survives When One Partner Gets Sick covers them pretty well so read that instead. It's specifically about people over 40 but I found most of it applicable.

It's always..weird to discover that your particular unpleasant experience is identical to a whole bunch of other people's. I had the same thing when I encountered other Phd students talking about the particular brand of misery and self hatred postgraduate research inspires.

You know how Cam could be more supportive of me right now, though? Not taking a nap in the next room when I have a bunch of vids I want to watch. Hmmph! But we'll work through it somehow.

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[sami]

That... that bastard.

Cam's a pretty good bloke, though. I've been quietly hoping you two would be okay through this without wanting to pry.

[sqbr]

Thanks. I actually have this rant I've been pondering about how difficult it is to discuss relationship/family etc problems around stuff like disability, since if people haven't gone through something like this they could easily read him as a heartless bastard for not always been immediately understanding, or me as being overly demanding for ever criticising him despite all he does for me etc. But despite a few hurdles we are doing ok at the moment.

And yeah, he is mostly pretty good :)