Female sexual dysfunction discussion bingo!

[sqbr]

Female sexual dysfunction discussion bingo, all the things that come up reliably in any discussion of the subject.

I've been meaning to post a link to Feminist with Sexual Disfunction for ages, even if you don't have sexual disfunction they're just a really good general feminist/sexuality etc blog and have a unique POV.

One of the reasons I've been putting it off is that I feel that, as part of trying to reduce the stigma around sexual disfunction, I should mention that I have had issues with that sort of thing myself, though at this point it's only around the middle of the list my many irritating incurable poorly diagnosed health problems that make life less fun. Not something I feel like talking about at all but there you are.

I find it interesting if rather depressing how the "It's all big Pharma making healthy women think they're broken" attitude contrasts with the "Clearly if you don't feel like having sex you must have some medical condition" crap pushed on asexual people. In both cases the experiences and opinions of actual people count for nothing in the face of The Way Things Are Supposed To Work.

(Also, I hope it goes without saying but: Please do not say any of the things in those bingo squares here)

Comments

[ariaflame]

I will try not to. Though some of them reworded aren't completely awful (Sexuality, whoever we are talking about is fairly complex I would have thought.)

[sqbr]

True, that's the thing with bingo: a lot of it is stuff which is entirely reasonable under the right circumstances, it's just said in the wrong context and with a bunch of them all together that things go horribly wrong.

[jesse_the_k]

Errr, I'm glad to know about that bingo card, and I appreciate you providing the information.

(That sounds awful stilted because I just can't put "FSD" and "thanks" within the same block of each other.)

I've been dealing with FDS since at least menarche, and .... yeah, I am afraid the only place I feel capable of talking about it is a) 1 to 1 in email or b) pleasantly drugged in a hot tub under the stars.

[cesy]

I'm still annoyed at how sometimes people hit bingo when commenting on fic. Seriously, it is possible to describe how a fic made you feel without insulting everyone who didn't feel the same way, let alone declaring that they all need to see a doctor immediately. /rant

[sqbr]

I think I have a vague idea what you're talking about, but can you give an example? Do people say "anyone who doesn't find this hot should see a doctor" or something? Because that would be pretty obnoxious.

[cesy]

Yep, that's pretty much it, word for word. As you may be able to tell, it's still bugging me, several months later.

[jeshyr]

The thing that hit me most about that post was a lot of those are things that I say to myself about a lot of this stuff.

Ahem.

I'll add it to the "things to work on" pile :/

[sqbr]

Internalised attitudes are nasty to have to deal with, good luck working on it.