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tommmo's post reminded of and I decided not to fill his comments with(*): I really hate plots in modern fiction where it's presented as not that big a deal for an engaged couple to break up before their wedding, but A Huge Deal for them to get divorced. Unless they're particularly religious, a wedding is just a formalisation of an commitment they've already made, so breaking them up just before the ceremony is pretty much equivalent to doing so just afterwards (which is to say, a really big deal).
I do make an exception for "engaged" couples who show no signs of getting married. What I'm complaining about is "guy runs into the church and grabs the girl just before she says 'I do' to the wrong guy" or "Woman dumps wrong guy at altar having suddenly realised she's making a big mistake". I can only think of one film where he is too late and she just divorces the wrong guy and they live happily ever after, and it was a very pleasant surprise :) (I'm not saying which film for spoiler reasons. It's not a very good film on the whole anyway)
I guess some people don't really commit to their partner until the wedding day. Those people are dumb, and I do not wish to see films about them unless they are presented as dumb in the text :P
*is amused by the strange bookend this makes to the "wedding" tag* I think I've been reading too many fantasy rants :)
(*)Just his friends list :)
tommmo's post reminded of and I decided not to fill his comments with(*): I really hate plots in modern fiction where it's presented as not that big a deal for an engaged couple to break up before their wedding, but A Huge Deal for them to get divorced. Unless they're particularly religious, a wedding is just a formalisation of an commitment they've already made, so breaking them up just before the ceremony is pretty much equivalent to doing so just afterwards (which is to say, a really big deal). I do make an exception for "engaged" couples who show no signs of getting married. What I'm complaining about is "guy runs into the church and grabs the girl just before she says 'I do' to the wrong guy" or "Woman dumps wrong guy at altar having suddenly realised she's making a big mistake". I can only think of one film where he is too late and she just divorces the wrong guy and they live happily ever after, and it was a very pleasant surprise :) (I'm not saying which film for spoiler reasons. It's not a very good film on the whole anyway)
I guess some people don't really commit to their partner until the wedding day. Those people are dumb, and I do not wish to see films about them unless they are presented as dumb in the text :P
*is amused by the strange bookend this makes to the "wedding" tag* I think I've been reading too many fantasy rants :)
(*)Just his friends list :)
