General principles of internet communication

[sqbr]

I've been thinking for some time about writing a post about the various techniques I've used to get around the difficulty of communicating with people on the internet when you're tactless.

But I've realised that before I can post that I need to lay out the necessary basic principles which I think underlie successful communication on the internet so that I can refer back to them.

I'm probably going to go back and add to this post as I go, but for the moment here are the principles that have come up, with links to clarifying posts where I felt they were necessary.

A lot of these are going to seem really self evident, but perhaps due to my background in pure mathematics I like having the principles I'm working from made explicit.

Basic Principles:

• Other people's feeling are as important as your own
  
• It is possible for rational, intelligent, well-informed people to have different opinions
  
• Freedom of speech does not actually mean saying whatever you like whenever you like
  
• Pay attention to what is being said, by you and others, and be aware of the different ways it could be interpreted
  

Sub-principles

• Other people's feelings are important
  
• The fact that you think someone is wrong doesn't mean it's ok to treat them like crap
  
• Stay on topic
  
• Be careful what you leave unsaid
  
• Actually read what people have said
  

I am, as always, totally up for people pointing out any flaws or inconsistencies or expressing a different opinion.

Comments

Possibly not on-topic

[david adam <zanchey> (from livejournal.com)]

It's interesting to see how the concept of 'netiquette' has slowly disappeared - I noticed it the other day in a piece of writing from 2004, and I think that's the most recent use I've seen. I guess part of the reason is that it was mostly technical, and a lot of the the problems it addressed have gone away now.

Every so often bits of the free software community struggle to come to terms with the fact that a few of its members are somewhat lacking in social skills and so you have posts like the oft-abusive mjg59's attempt to explain that, basically, you shouldn't be a dick. http://mjg59.livejournal.com/94420.html Of course he does occasionally ruin this by instructing people to choke on buckets of cocks, but presumably that's ironic.

[david adam <zanchey> (from livejournal.com)]

Also! If you really want to go back to basics, you can just follow the lead of a green dinosaur!

http://qwantz.com/archive/001272.html

[alias_sqbr]

Wow, I am actually admiring the social advice given by open source developers and green dinosaurs. I'm not sure which is more surprising :D

[greteldragon.livejournal.com]

It is possible for rational, intelligent, well-informed people to have different opinions

I like this one. It annoys when other people assume whatever side of a debate is dumb. Particularly fun when arguing about environmentalism or meateating or politics in my opinion. :P

[alias_sqbr]

Oh, I know! So annoying! Religion is another one.

Whenever I complain about this sort of thing, Cam says "Your problem is that you keep forgetting that people suck".

[greteldragon.livejournal.com]

It is possible for rational, intelligent, well-informed people to have different opinions

I like this one. It annoys when other people assume whatever side of a debate is dumb. Particularly fun when arguing about environmentalism or meateating or politics in my opinion. :P

[alias_sqbr]

Oh, I know! So annoying! Religion is another one.

Whenever I complain about this sort of thing, Cam says "Your problem is that you keep forgetting that people suck".