After reading your post, I'm starting to think of "growing up" as a
continued process of refining skills, both emotional and practical, and of
making choices, some of which relate to age and some of which aren't. This
is a somewhat sloppy definition, and I'm not quite satisfied with it, but I
like conceptualizing it as a process with no fixed end goal.
nods It's been one of the happy surprises of getting older, that there's
no end point where you stop growing and changing.
I took part in an official mentoring program at my uni from both sides and
the teens had zero interest in actually talking to the mentors, there was
some failure in the setup or something. But I've been on both sides of
friendly acquaintanceships with a mentory vibe and found them very
rewarding.
I have another thing I want to say but my sleepy brain is refusing to
articulate it. But your thoughts were interesting!
Haha, I think talking to mentors is a skill, and it takes some trust and vulnerability as well -- I've been on both sides of those programs (in a non-academic work context), and I think I only became good at being a mentee after I became a mentor. On the other hand, I've watched some people absolutely thrive at figuring out how to get what they want out of a mentorship.
Friendly acquaintanceships are much easier. And fun!
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After reading your post, I'm starting to think of "growing up" as a continued process of refining skills, both emotional and practical, and of making choices, some of which relate to age and some of which aren't. This is a somewhat sloppy definition, and I'm not quite satisfied with it, but I like conceptualizing it as a process with no fixed end goal.
nods It's been one of the happy surprises of getting older, that there's no end point where you stop growing and changing.
I took part in an official mentoring program at my uni from both sides and the teens had zero interest in actually talking to the mentors, there was some failure in the setup or something. But I've been on both sides of friendly acquaintanceships with a mentory vibe and found them very rewarding.
I have another thing I want to say but my sleepy brain is refusing to articulate it. But your thoughts were interesting!
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Friendly acquaintanceships are much easier. And fun!
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Yeah, I think I'd be much better at both sides now.