Things I assume you know about me

[sqbr]

This is the basic stuff I assume as context when I post. The links are to extra info for the curious, I'm not going to assume people have read them!

I have a lot of social media accounts, almost always under the name sqbr.

Misc
My name is Sean, which isn't my birth name.
I was born near the end of 1979.
I was born and live in Perth, Western Australia.
I'm an atheist, shading into agnostic around the edges.

Social context
I'm afab and genderfluid.
I'm white, a mix of Anglo, Eastern European and Jewish.
I have anxiety and depression.
I have chronic fatigue syndrome to the extent that I can't work, and identify as disabled. (A rundown of my health issues) I also have a lot of food intolerances, use a power wheelchair, and can't walk up stairs without a lot of pain(*).
I'm married to distantcam and biromantic grey asexual.
My parents are well educated lefty artist types working unskilled low-paid jobs, which makes me ambivalent about my class status.

Interests
I'm a science fiction fan, and am involved in local con-going fandom.

I draw a lot, including comics. I also make visual novels (art, writing, and coding). My fanish creative stuff can be seen at my alias_sqbr tumblr and the AO3. I also have Professional Artist And Game Developer stuff that avoid linking to my fannish persona publically but can be seen here if you're on the access list for sqbr or here for alias_sqbr.
I have a Phd in computational mathematics and love science, though I kind of burnt myself out talking about it after working in Science Communication for many years. (My maths page)

Communication

I am sometimes very bad at judging social cues or figuring out what other people are thinking.
I sometimes have difficulty replying to messages.
I have conflict anxiety, but am pretty good with calmly expressed criticism.
I like discussion and expressing my opinions which can sometimes come across as a bit combatitive.
I like most people, and am very happy for random people to join in the conversations on my blog.

I'm very absent minded, so have probably forgotten some stuff :)

(*)These last two are less relevant to my blog and more things I like to mention as often as possible so that people don't invite me for wine and cheese at the top of a flight of stairs.

Comments

[cleo]

Hi! I read your meta on femslash (interesting thoughts...am thinking about a reply right now) tonight on LJ, but I was hoping you wouldn't mind if I subscribed to you here (as I read more on DW). Thanks!

[sqbr]

Go ahead! In fact, that's something I should add to the post: I ALWAYS welcome new readers, the more validation of my awesomeness the better :D

[tree]

this was very interesting to read, thank you :) and i'm so jealous that you studied maths. in my next life, that's the plan.

[sqbr]

Oh, the number of different things I would like to have magically studied while also studying maths. I still feel a certain sadness at having to drop my original physics major :(

[polyserena]

violetsquirrel@LJ here just letting you know I'm adding you to my reading list here! Don't worry about adding me to yours cause if I get around to posting on my DW it'll be J-rock related and probably not relevant to your interests. Unless it ends up otherwise idk. Is there any kind of etiquette about this whole split flist thing yet?

[sqbr]

Is there any kind of etiquette about this whole split flist thing yet?

No idea. I'm looking forward to reading filters, since then all the people who double post etc can be checked every now and then without filling my already strained reading list.

[elaran]

people don't invite me for wine and cheese at the top of a flight of stairs
and here i was with invites all ready! [i am imagining a very cramped wine&cheese night in CH now]

Had not realised how much getting to UniSFA must really suck for you =/

[sqbr]

I didn't describe it very well: I can walk up 1-2 flights of stairs a day and have it not hurt too much, but the more stairs I walk up past that point the worse it gets. So getting to unisfa isn't too bad, as long as I don't leave and come back. I learned to pack myself a lunch if I was planning on staying long :D Also luckily the knee thing started during my Phd, not when I was a student popping in and out of unisfa between lectures.

There used to be wine and cheese nights in Cameron Hall! I helped run one once! (This was when I still ate cheese, drank the odd bit of wine, and had no problem with stairs. Ah, youth)

[ajnabi]

Hi! I can't remember exactly how I found your journal-- I think it was interests search or something-- and I bookmarked this page, meaning to subscribe to you, and then forgot ;___; But I am glad I found this again, because I would love to read more. I'm subscribing to you/giving you access-- though if you would rather I didn't, just let me know. (No pressure to add back or anything, either, of course).

I can identify with this somewhat:
My parents are well educated lefty artist types working unskilled low-paid jobs, which makes me ambivalent about my class status.

My parents are well educated lefty artist/academic types too :P Though my father grew up poor in India, got a bit upwardly mobile (in comparison to his childhood, definitely), and ended up at great universities in India and then Princeton. And now he is a professor at a uni in India, and has been for almost three decades. And my mother comes from greater class privilege than she currently actually has (she lives and works in India and tends to do a lot of freelance low-paid work, or have temporary higher-paying stints). She would have a much harder time if she tried to come back and make it in the US. Anyway, sorry, the point is, the class (dis)privilege situation is so complicated in my family, so I can understand! Sorry for rambling :x

[sqbr]

Hello! More subscribers etc are always welcome ^_^

Rambling is cool. My husband's father is from India (though he left very young, and for various reasons my husband identifies as white) so your situation has resonances for me navigating the identity issues around that aspect of my extended family.

[dalmeny]

Hi, I'm the computational fluid dynamicist who got into a couple of discussions with you at Swancon, one about fanfic after the female background characters Gynecon panel, and one about Science and Art with lilysea and others. Network analysis of links between female characters etc.

Just saying hi, and inviting you to friend me. I crosspost to both LJ and Dreamwidth under this name.

[sqbr]

Hello! *adds*

First when i heard of you

[(Anonymous)]

well after i read your review on Heileen 3, i was really interested in you as a person :3 so here I am... stalking you online