Thorns

So! I am now crossposting all my alias_sqbr content from dreamwidth.

The places you can get your Dr Sophie funtimes:

alias_sqbr: real life stuff, fandom, art: alias_sqbr at Dreamwidth, alias_sqbr at Livejournal

sqbr: Attempt at a safe space for discussing Serious Business: sqbr at Dreamwidth, sqbr feed at livejournal.

I haven't figured out how I'm going to organise my reading circles (there may be some adding and removing going on in the future), and am cool with people changing where I sit in their access/subscription, but if you've given access to sqbr it'd be helpful if you gave access to alias_sqbr as well.

Would those reading sqbr from the feed prefer it if I made an lj and crossposted to that instead? Comments would be disabled.

I've had a bunch of comments recently which have been sincere and thought out and not entirely without merit, but I was really ambivalent about unscreening them since I felt they might be hurtful to some of my readers.

Thinking about it helped crystalize what I was going for from the beginning with this journal: I am not the thought police deciding what is and is not a Valid Statement. I'm just trying to make sure the content here doesn't have a hurtful effect. If a conversation will be hurtful held publically, then I shouldn't make it public, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a Bad Conversation.

So: If you have something to say to me which is a sincere and thoughtful response to what I've said but you're worried it might go against the word or spirit of my comments policy, send it as a private message or email. If you want to discuss it with lots of people, make a post on your own journal and leave a comment with an explanation and link.

If you make a comment which I think deserves a reply but I'm not comfortable making public, I'll leave/make it screened and send you a private message.

Note that I may decide that I don't want to continue a conversation privately either: my spoons are very limited, and if it's hurtful to other people it may also be hurtful to me.

I used to put these long wordy disclaimers on my posts, but they got annoying so I stopped. I'd still like a way of making these things clear though, so now I can just link to this and go "Note: 3b) applies" etc (which it really does)

Since a few people have asked: you are quite welcome to make your own list of relevant disclaimers based on/inspired by this page, though credit would be nice and I want a cut of any profits :)
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To avoid spambots. So if you want to post here anonymously you should be prepared to say something which makes it clear you're not a spambot :P I'm tempted to delete all unsigned anonymous comments just because they annoy me (there's at least two people who leave them and it's hard to tell which is which)

trs80 pointed out that my old "do I read your lj?" friending policy was a bit hard on OpenID users, so I've changed it to suit.

So, anyone I know reasonably well who reads this and has an OpenID account (not an lj) and wishes me to friend them let me know in the comments and I probably will.