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Sunday, September 22nd, 2019 08:23 pm
This is my Serious Business journal. Are you perhaps looking for my fannish/personal journal [personal profile] alias_sqbr?

My old comment policy, I don't care about this as intensely as I used to but it gives some idea of how I'd like people to interact here.

Absolutely anyone is welcome to read/subscribe, and noone is under any obligation to give me access.

This is the stuff I assume you know about me.
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Sunday, March 31st, 2019 09:15 pm
Age Poll Results

Apparently [personal profile] sqbr followers are the most enthused about filling out polls :)
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Sunday, March 24th, 2019 11:56 am
Age poll!

Apologies to those who already did it, feel free to do the poll for people who already did the poll.
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Monday, March 18th, 2019 11:12 am
A poll on age for those who follow me on social media

(Apologies to those who are going to see this multiple times)
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Saturday, March 9th, 2019 02:06 pm
And this is the last of my links posts for a while!

Content note: rape
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Thursday, March 7th, 2019 04:29 am
Who identifies as a person of colour in Australia?

Yiddish and diasporic Judaism

Facebook Fueled Anti-Refugee Attacks in Germany, New Research Suggests

Colonialist narratives in farming games I actually think they're more talking about survival/exploration games, which are a slightly different genre. A lot of this does apply to farming games too, though.
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Thursday, February 28th, 2019 10:27 am
We are not the same – on Raphael, Jughead and Aro/Ace representation

stop pitting detransitoners against happily transitioned people

Physician, know thy own queer history
"A reflection on current sex-negative and exclusionary trends in LGBTQ+ discourse as the unfortunate consequence of 20 years of campaigning for same-sex marriage and legal gender transition, and therefore a focus on respectability politics and neglect of sex positivity and sex education" I think I linked to the dreamwidth post because of the comments.

Issues with "women and nonbinary" submission calls

The History of Homosexuality in Japan: Part 1

Non binary characters in Japanese media

When making inclusion resources for women and nonbinary folk, please consider including trans men Note that not all trans men feel this way! But it's a point of view worth noting.

(yes I did come across some of these researching Hakuoki fic, shh)
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Wednesday, February 27th, 2019 03:11 pm
The Folly of 'Purity Politics'

Language of Appeasement
"By substituting diversity and inclusion rhetoric for transformative efforts to promote equity and justice, colleges have avoided recognizable institutional change"

Intersectional Identity and the Path to Progress

New Meta Newsletter, Signal Boosting, Linking, Dogpiling, and History

Double Standards and Diverse Media

Racism in Fandom & Fandom Discourse

I Helped Create the Milo Trolling Playbook. You Should Stop Playing Right Into It. This is interesting but comes to totally the wrong conclusions, and ignores broader social structures. For example it ignores the effect actions have on Milo versus on social prejudice in general, which the author doesn't seem to actually believe in.
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Monday, February 25th, 2019 10:50 pm
My list of links to post was getting ridiculous, so I have come up with a hopefully more workable system, and will try to divide the backlog into digestible chunks.

"Current" here means, uh, 2017 in some cases >.>
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Friday, January 25th, 2019 04:34 pm
Inspired by this post about aging:
I think seeing people in their 20´s and 30´s as “old” is pretty unhealthy... Let people enjoy being young adults, stop making teenagers anxious that their life ends the minute they hit twenty, or adults feel like they can’t have fun anymore.

Yeah, like...there are changes that tend to happen as you get older, and power dynamics to be aware of. But there isn’t this clear line between Being Young and Being Old, where you become a Grownup with the same tastes and needs (or lack thereof) as All Other Grownups.

The world is controlled by grownups...but by conventionally minded, privileged grownups.

The progression we're taught to expect is that young people get along with each other, but not with adults. And then they grow up into conventional adults and enjoy a world designed for and controlled by people like them.

But to the extent that this narrative applies at all, it's only to conventional, privileged people who fit comfortably into mainstream society.

An unconventional young person finds the world frustrating on two levels: the grownups in charge don’t understand or accept them, but neither do most people their own age. Such a young person finds pressure to be “normal” doubly crushing: not only do they find conventional grownup roles impossible, they also can’t fit into “proper” roles for people their age. The only way to find happiness is to accept themselves and find other like-minded misfits.

And such a young person doesn’t suddenly become a conventional adult who is happy to fit entirely into the mainstream. It often gets easier once they get older, partly because the world is designed for grownups (if not ones like us) but partly because we generally have more ability to control our own lives and avoid, say, toxic parents or stifling social environments. Forcing ourselves to be Normal is just as impossible and soul-destroying for misfit adults as it is for misfit teens.

Saying that unconventional grownups are pathetic and predatory, or even just boring, is damaging to us and to the young people who will grow into us. They need to see that they have a future, that they can become adults and still hold onto who they are, and what they need. Yeah, being unconventional or even disprivileged doesn’t make the power dynamics between older and younger people go away, and that’s something we need to be careful of, but being older doesn’t make all the other distinctions go away either.

Signed, a 39 year old queer, disabled, nerdy weirdo who hasn’t stopped being all those other things just because I’m pushing 40.
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Tuesday, January 22nd, 2019 07:28 pm

[community profile] thisweekmeta posted: 000. welcome & faq

This Week in Meta is a pan-fandom meta newsletter. It collects links from: Dreamwidth, LiveJournal, Tumblr, Twitter, Youtube, blogs, and anywhere else people may be writing and talking about meta. We do not link to locked or private posts, and will have warnings for NSFW links. We don't ask permission to link to publicly available posts, but we will give you a head's up that it's going into an issue.

I haven't actually read any of the linked posts yet, so can't say if I like their editorial style or not yet, but hooray for meta.

(I posted this using this nice bookmarklet for signalboosting dreamwidth posts)
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Thursday, November 1st, 2018 01:19 pm
Inspired by a pervocracy post:

“I’m not attracted to X, so I won’t date them”: okay then, you go ahead and do that

“I’m not attracted to X, and I demand that people who are X hear and validate this statement and give me their official permission to not be attracted to them”: please no

“I’m not attracted to X, and I demand that the entire world hear and validate this statement and declare X objectively unattractive”: you can stop now

...[I think there’s] a lot of people who never internalized that they can make choices about their sexuality.

I see this a lot when I get asks saying “men should do [very specific behavior] in relationships with women,” where it’s obvious the asker just wants her boyfriend to do that behavior but has no tools for expressing that. The universal, objective rules of society may be up for debate, but the fact that such rules exist is not.

My thoughts, including sexual trauma discussion.
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Monday, October 29th, 2018 01:34 pm
I usually like Smart Bitches Trashy Books but this annoyed me.

Breaking Up with Damaging Conventions in Romance: A Conversation with Kate Cuthbert

It annoyed me to start with by being more gendered than it needed to be. Not all romances are about or by women, and even the ones that are aren't just read by women. You can talk about it being a genre mainly about/for/by women (which it is, and that's important) without overgeneralising.

But then she did that thing a lot of anti-problematic-fiction people do, where they start out saying "write about whatever you want, but think about the context of what you're writing and do it mindfully" but by the end are unambiguously saying "don't write this". She talks a good game about being ok with women's sexuality and fantasy but she clearly doesn't get it.

*** Content note: discussion of rape fantasy ***
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Saturday, October 13th, 2018 05:08 pm
Inspired by this essay about the misremembering of Captain Kirk, I had some extra thoughts on tumblr and then I had some EXTRA extra thoughts and decided it was probably time for a proper post.
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Friday, October 12th, 2018 05:07 pm
There are a bunch of ways the word "wholesome" is used but I have yet to encounter one that doesn't infuriate me.
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Sunday, October 7th, 2018 01:21 pm
Inspired by a broader conversation I had yesterday with [personal profile] moonvoice and the blog of the original translator of Hakuoki into English who turned out to be a somewhat bro-ish straight dude who made the game "more accessible" by making the protagonist Chizuru less passive and submissive.
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Monday, July 2nd, 2018 04:27 pm
Haha, oops, accidentally posted part like...seven of my ongoing liveblog of the dating sim Hakuoki here. If you're not following [personal profile] alias_sqbr but are like "hey I was reading that!" here's background information and links.

*goes off to repost it to my fandom blog*